What if the other person always wants your attention? I break out a puzzle, but they want me to also pay attention to the YouTube video of TikTok video compilations, and they get upset if I they exclaim "whoa, did you see that?" and I have to admit "no, I missed it" because I was looking down at my puzzle (each of these individual videos in these compilations are less than 10 seconds long, so you either pay attention every second, or you miss most of them).
This is not due to lack of time together. We spend our entire weekends, F-Su together (errands, socializing with friends, meals, and just vegging out at home), and we also have Tuesday date nights. That leaves me with Mon, Wed, and Thur nights where I'd really like to engage in puzzles, crochet, or a book after dinner, and there's always this insistence on TV. Help!
About once a week I manage to go to another room in the house and do my chosen activity, but most of the time when I attempt to go to the other room, my partner *insists* on watching TV together, and then I feel super guilty, and then I give up and sit on the couch. (I have been working on the same 1,000-piece puzzle for over a year now.)
@Sam - ooh, tricky situation! I would hope that if this is someone you've been with for a while you could say in a straightforward way that you're really hoping to work on your puzzle. You could invite your partner to help you, or say you'll watch the videos for x amount of time if your partner will then work on the puzzle with you. But everyone needs their space so if a request for getting an hour to do your own thing meets with a lot of resistance maybe you need to have a deeper conversation about what your partner thinks is lacking that this is a problem. Good luck!
TV is one of the few activities that my HB and I share together, and I'm not comfortable wasting hours at a time on a show. It's nice sometimes, but I'm usually finding myself listless.
We just started a new anime, and I insisted on the dubbed version so I can work on a baby blanket I'm crocheting. I consider it a win win. Time spent together, engaged in a shared activity but also getting something made. AND, if that's not enough I also have a 1,000 piece puzzle on a table in front of me. (Although, it's taking 1,000 years it seems, but that's okay!)
I’ve been feeling alienated from my family because my mom insists on TV dinners multiple times per week. I have a really hard time eating mindfully while distracted so I sometimes eat alone. No matter which I do I feel lonely.
I’m traveling in south america and when I come back I hope to get my own place. I will probably need to share it and I really hope I can find a tech-light comunal house where phones and TV are excluded from certain comunal spaces and times.
What if the other person always wants your attention? I break out a puzzle, but they want me to also pay attention to the YouTube video of TikTok video compilations, and they get upset if I they exclaim "whoa, did you see that?" and I have to admit "no, I missed it" because I was looking down at my puzzle (each of these individual videos in these compilations are less than 10 seconds long, so you either pay attention every second, or you miss most of them).
This is not due to lack of time together. We spend our entire weekends, F-Su together (errands, socializing with friends, meals, and just vegging out at home), and we also have Tuesday date nights. That leaves me with Mon, Wed, and Thur nights where I'd really like to engage in puzzles, crochet, or a book after dinner, and there's always this insistence on TV. Help!
About once a week I manage to go to another room in the house and do my chosen activity, but most of the time when I attempt to go to the other room, my partner *insists* on watching TV together, and then I feel super guilty, and then I give up and sit on the couch. (I have been working on the same 1,000-piece puzzle for over a year now.)
@Sam - ooh, tricky situation! I would hope that if this is someone you've been with for a while you could say in a straightforward way that you're really hoping to work on your puzzle. You could invite your partner to help you, or say you'll watch the videos for x amount of time if your partner will then work on the puzzle with you. But everyone needs their space so if a request for getting an hour to do your own thing meets with a lot of resistance maybe you need to have a deeper conversation about what your partner thinks is lacking that this is a problem. Good luck!
TV is one of the few activities that my HB and I share together, and I'm not comfortable wasting hours at a time on a show. It's nice sometimes, but I'm usually finding myself listless.
We just started a new anime, and I insisted on the dubbed version so I can work on a baby blanket I'm crocheting. I consider it a win win. Time spent together, engaged in a shared activity but also getting something made. AND, if that's not enough I also have a 1,000 piece puzzle on a table in front of me. (Although, it's taking 1,000 years it seems, but that's okay!)
I’ve been feeling alienated from my family because my mom insists on TV dinners multiple times per week. I have a really hard time eating mindfully while distracted so I sometimes eat alone. No matter which I do I feel lonely.
I’m traveling in south america and when I come back I hope to get my own place. I will probably need to share it and I really hope I can find a tech-light comunal house where phones and TV are excluded from certain comunal spaces and times.